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Addiction and substance abuse are two very different things. Drug and alcohol abuse and dependency can be a part of addiction but are not the only factors involved. The disease of addiction is incurable, progressive and fatal if left untreated but luckily, it can be arrested and recovery maintained.
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It is reasonably common for a person addicted to one type of addictive behaviour to act out on another one. A person acting out on drug use for example, can suffer from an active eating disorder or self-mutilation problem as well. In addition, an interesting occurrence is what happens when one addictive behaviour is taken away without any treatment of the addict's underlying problems - the addiction begins to manifest itself in some other form of obsessive compulsive disorder. This is due to the fact that the drugs, the sex, the alcohol,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], the gambling, et cetera are not the main issue; they are a symptom of the problem. The main issue is the person and the disease.
Some feel it is a character flaw and lack of self-will; that the addict is a "bad" person whilst others believe that a particular drug,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], drink, person or location is the problem. A person locked in an addictive problem has definite behaviours which resemble some kind of possession! However,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], when addiction is classified as a disease, all of the behaviours and outcomes make sense.
This is why an alcoholic can stop drinking but remains miserable and unhappy: they are a dry drunk. The problem has not been attended to, only the symptom. Drug addicts can be addicted to any drug, many of which have no physical dependency side effects, once again illustrating how drugs are not the main issue behind drug addiction: the disease is.
The most effective method of treatment involves a combination of all three of these methods. Addicts receiving therapy for their problems in conjunction with a healthy lifestyle and a programme of recovery, such as the Twelve Steps, and attendance at 12 Step meetings to help them stay focused on abstinence have been shown to be the most successful.
The disease of addiction also coincides with the mistaken theory of many addicts that the problem is one particular drug, the area in which they live, the specific type of whisky that they drink or some similar factor.
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The Symptoms of Addiction
How can you tell if someone is suffering from the disease of addiction? This can be a tricky question to answer, especially seeing as addiction is a progressive disease, but most value the Step 1 statement in the 12 Steps as a good clue: "We realised we were powerless over our addiction and that our lives had become unmanageable." Because not everyone who uses drugs, gambles,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], gets drunk or has a casual sexual encounter is an addict, other factors need to be considered, not only the addictive behaviours.
Different Types of Addictive Behaviour
The disease of addiction is a condition which takes on many different forms of obsessive and compulsive behaviour, looking constantly for an outlet to cause destruction and escape.
There are many theories concerning the nature of addiction and what it is exactly.
Addiction Help and Treatment
There are many different types of treatment available for addiction and some have a higher success rate than others.
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Even though a person's engagement in obsessive and compulsive behaviour is a primary symptom of addiction, other factors need to be considered: as Step 1 puts it; has the person's life become unmanageable? Do they engage in addictive behaviours even when it will cause massive negative consequences,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], disrupting their and other people's lives? Do they behave in ways which are against their moral values, sacrificing what is important to them to fulfil an obsessive and compulsive need?
Because addiction is a disease, these factors are irrelevant: if someone is drinking whisky instead of vodka because they tend to drink only vodka and believe that that drink is the particular problem which makes them lose control, they are still drinking and will still lose control. The main point to consider about the disease of addiction is that it makes the addict powerless. Once they have had one drink, one line, one prostitute; they have no control over their actions or behaviours and are led by their disease.
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You’ve probably heard it before, but good communication is absolutely necessary for enduring and fostering any healthy and loving relationship.
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As an active listener you are being present in the moment, focusing on your partner and truly listening to the message your partner is trying to communicate. Not being an active listener is when you focus your attention on planning your come back or clever response that will prove your point. Consequently, creating an environment of defensiveness instead of a space of trust and attention.
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Ask these questions to gain greater clarity about pursuing dating.
About a year after my husband died I began feeling extremely restless. Grief kept my mind skittering from one thing to another. Although these restless feelings were confusing, they were at least a bit of a relief from the heaviness of grief’s deep sadness and depression.
• Do I still feel constantly lonely?
• Am I able to be comfortable just spending time alone with myself,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych]?
• If I am asked to describe my ideal dating partner, would all the characteristics really be a complete description of my deceased spouse?
Somehow, from this agitated state of displaced energy, I decided to try internet dating.
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The desire to date can really signal that a new transformational process has occurred in the life of the griever. It’s a powerful sign of willingness to move your life forward.
Well, I really didn’t wait. I was out there looking for my perfect companion in cyberspace.
The pain of feeling my grieving body was so overwhelming that I believe my mind was searching for a way to disengage and somehow feel “normal” again.
The emails led to some actual dates and even some more serious dating.
I boldly responded to profiles of men that seemed like interesting dating prospects.
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My decision to try dating was really about my missing my spouse in a more deeply physical way.
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It took me awhile to figure out the mechanics, since I knew very little about computers at that time. I spent time organizing my profile information and coming up with a catchy tagline. I posted my profile and waited for responses.
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There is no right or wrong answer to these questions. They are simply questions to provide you with more information about your most authentic feelings about dating as an option when healing from grief.
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Traditionally the process of getting a divorce has involved hiring lawyers, going to court and letting a judge or the lawyers decide and/or negotiate the outcome. The couple plays the most passive role in the legal drama. Because the decisions are coming from above instead of the couple themselves fashioning a result, it is often difficult for the couple to comfortably live with the final outcome. When the couple is more actively involved in creating the terms of their own divorce instead of having to put up with the "one size fits all" solution that the legal process gives them, there is a better fit and more of a commitment to make it work. Most people resent solutions that are imposed on them. It is natural that individuals are more satisfied when they get to decide for themselves instead of being told what to do.
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Although this approach to relationships is normal, it usually brings disappointment because happiness comes and goes. It has to, because happiness depends upon circumstances. When things go well, we are happy.
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Some activities just have no real value, To be a published writer is one of the most rewarding occupations and pastimes - both financially and creatively. What would you like to achieve in the future?
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I was watching my six and nine year old daughters playing the other morning when suddenly there was a barrage of I Hate You and I Don't Like You Anymore statements flying about the room. Of course, it was just a moment of disagreement in child play, but the thoughts and feelings were real enough to them at that moment.
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Fifteen minutes later they were mindlessly lost in a new layer of exciting activity and fun play. The things they had said and thought in the heat of the moment were a long lost memory as were most of the things they had been asked to do by their mother and me.
Children can be an excellent example of pure human nature. A human nature that most of us will carry into adulthood to one degree of another. We disagree, argue and find fault with others that don't hold to our personal views and beliefs. We exclaim how much we dislike that person even to the extreme of hatred and hold a grudge,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], sometimes for years. Our emotions and feelings surface and spill out all over the personal relationships that define the patterns of our lives.
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There were the complaints that turned into whines and finally the visit to our feet as one or the other pleaded their case and asked us to intervene on their behalf.
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• The kind of listener that doesn’t always hear the exact words people speaks – but listens for the gist or the meaning behind the words,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych]?
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• Often a “literal” listener is also a “literal” communicator
It is easy to identify the “gist” person. They really want you to get the meaning behind the words,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], not the exact words. If you repeat their exact words you will notice them tell you repeatedly that the words they just said were not what they meant. Take this not as a point of illogic or wrongness but as a clue for unraveling the communication mystery.
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It is about acknowledging her and allowing her to move on with her story. Only if you are a gist person is this easy. If you are the literal listener it requires you withhold judgment, stop the screaming dictionaries in your brain and shut down your logic in order to allow the other person the space they need to tell their story and feel heard.
In order to listen well, you must read the person who is talking to you - which means you must be completely present, allowing no other distractions. Part of reading the other person is:
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Gloria is the “gist” listener and communicator, Ted is the “literal” listener and communicator – lets see what happens when they communicate. Gloria concerned Ted when she told him that she had been “yelled” at as she debriefed a prior conversation with a coworker. Her manager, Ted just happened to be present during the “yelling” and didn’t hear a raised voice or even a threatening tone. He then questioned Gloria’s definition of the word “yell.” Gloria readily confirmed Ted’s definition – “yell” means to raise your voice. She even agreed the coworker did not raise his voice.
Let’s see how a literal can respond to a “gist” person…
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Then the bomb; Gloria said the way the conversation came across to her, the coworker might as well have “yelled”. By this point, a literal communicator like Ted didn’t know where to go. Gloria’s explanation of the word “yell” didn’t fit and left him needing more information or to correct Gloria’s statement. Gloria wanted to be heard and until she felt heard, she would not give more information and would block Ted at his attempts. Ted at this point stopped trying to listen confused as to why Gloria would intentionally slander a coworker by using the word “yell.”
Since leadership and good communication start with learning what kind of a listener you are, this article explores a way to improve listening that I am sure you will relate to.
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Ever been told you don't listen well? Or maybe worse… “You are a lousy communicator,” “Do you ever listen?” “How do you expect to be a leader if you don’t listen?”
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Sound easy? Neither responses are easy – we as communicators are often knee deep in our own communication style and struggle to get outside of it. However, it is possible, otherwise we wouldn’t have the amazing people we admire in this world – they have figured it out.
One more thing; at any given moment the literal and gist person could change on you. Your job is to be aware and dance to the music instead of stop it. Just by adapting to your listener, your communication ratings are guaranteed to soar.
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In communicating with the logic or literal person, gist communicators and listeners must work very hard at following the literal words, then speak those same words back to the literal speaker and respond with a literal response.
Pamela’s Point: As the reader, no matter which side you are on, the fact that you can see where the other person is coming from (whether you agree with it or not) improves your chances of being considered a good communicator.
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the old Yu every morning to the mountains exercise, he also take tools to catch grasshoppers, earthworms to feed the chickens. Sometimes they eat the remaining fish, shrimp is also used to eat chicken.
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